Gary Chapman wrote a book called, The Five Languages of Love: The Secret to Love that Lasts. If you or your partner are autistic, you may feel you have enough trouble communicating socially with your loved one in one language. Five languages? How does that even work?
Tchiki Davis wrote an article in Psychology Today that explains. There are at least five different ways that people can demonstrate to their partner that they love, value, appreciate, and cherish them. These are (1) Words of Affirmation, (2) Acts of Service, (3) Receiving Gifts, (4) Quality Time, and (5) Physical Touch.
Different people resonate with different expressions of love. If you and your partner have different Love Languages, it can get confusing. Perhaps each of you has been trying to show your love in the way that you would most like to be shown love, in your own Love Language. But what if your partner has a different preference? They may be trying to show you how they feel in their own way, and you might have missed it.
Of course, you may enjoy several or all of these Love Languages, but one of them may be the one that means the most to you. You and your partner can take free quizzes online to let you know what your personal love languages are.
When you know more about your own and your partner’s Love Language preferences, you can express your love in ways that will be most meaningful to your loved one.